The WHY AND HOW

My healing journey began early in life, driven by an unrelenting desire not only to ease my pain and confusion but to dig deep into their core origins. I saw no other way. At thirty, while beginning work with a transpersonal psychotherapist where I tentatively suggested that six months of sessions might heal my issue. His response was sobering—a chuckle followed by a blunt truth: “At a minimum if you are lucky, you are in for a decade-long head job of sleeves-rolled-up, hardcore, dedicated work”. With casual affect he added that I’d endured multiple counts of every type of trauma identified by his profession except military combat. Paradoxically, this spiritual autopsy unfolded alongside a 3-decade tether to an exploitative, propaganda-driven advertising industry—a world where experts specialize in fracturing reality, obscure higher purpose and sever people from nature, to keep us buying into illusion.

Twenty-two years later, I’ve traversed the globe exploring countless healing modalities both conventional and alternative. My holistic, comprehensive, no-stone-unturned excavation brought me down to the bottom floor pit of my being. Today, I see our world as an intricate web of interconnected paths, each primed for collective spiritual evolution. I find joy in helping others uncover their own divine paths within this vast tapestry.

It’s wildly complex and exhilarating—the countless variables that intertwine to shape a person’s identity, self-concept, and fate. When we bring our unconscious self into conscious awareness, our entire reality shifts; the meanings we assign to our experiences transform in ways we can never unsee. New possibilities and pathways emerge—ones previously unfathomable because we lacked the conceptual framework to imagine them. Truly, we don’t experience reality as it is; we perceive reality as we are—unconsciously crafting our world through the subtle currents of the etheric field.

Seminal works such as The Four (and Fifth) Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, How Emotions Are Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett, and The Mutant Message by Marlo Morgan inspire my philosophy toward healing. These texts, among hundreds of others, inform my considered strategies for upgrading personal narratives.

A Breakthrough Approach

In 2018, I was introduced to the practice of Family Constellations through Mark Wolynn’s book, It Didn’t Start With You. The book describes a novel therapeutic approach developed by German psychotherapist Bert Hellinger in the 1970s and expanded upon by Wolynn. As a lifelong lover of Astrology with a four-planet-packed twelfth house, I found this method to be nothing less than paradigm-shifting. Combine that with my 40 yearlong obsession with genealogy—having traversed Europe by family village and graveyard, uncovering records as far back as possible long before ancestry testing became popular. The advent of 23&Me or Ancestry.com came years after my walls were floor-to-ceiling papered with research, all limbs stemming from my pinned 10-year-old hand-drawn Family Tree. Ground zero.

Our families profoundly shape our narratives. For those who have experienced trauma or estrangement, acknowledging this can be challenging—they often seek distance from those who have caused them pain. Conversely, even those content with their family dynamics may struggle to recognize the subtle impacts of generational trauma on their daily lives.

Family Constellations offered me a vital breakthrough in understanding personal healing. It provided a way to explore the root causes of emotional wounds, enabling me to comprehend my past, heal deeply, and move forward with greater clarity. This therapy focuses on understanding family dynamics and generational patterns, helping me trace and heal the emotional origins of my personal challenges.

Unique PATHS to Healing

Through my unique approach of systemic thinking and psychology-informed coaching, I offer an authentic and comprehensive path to introspection. I create a safe space for exploration, allowing my clients to become their own center of gravity. With my expertise in recognizing triggers and traumas, I facilitate the unearthing and dissolution of unconscious blocks, paving the way for powerful realizations and lasting change.

We are each exquisite puzzles, gifted with the perpetual challenge of choice: to self-sort or not, to tune-in or tune-out. If we tune in and follow the cosmic breadcrumbs, we can be divinely guided to integrate the masterful mashup of our essence. If we use our free will and heed the call - the why and what and how - of our very being.

The Journey Continues

My insights, forged through a lifetime of navigating calamities in every category (now viewed with a bit of distance and humor), have uniquely equipped me to support those seeking self-understanding and purposeful direction in this increasingly complex world. My approach complements ongoing therapeutic work and often provides the missing gear many have been searching for to address long-standing challenges and reorient their life paths. With this hard-won expertise, I help others navigate their own healing journeys.

Through my work, I envision a world where individuals unravel the intricate tapestry of their existence—revealing hidden patterns and connections—and ultimately elevate the collective, interconnected web of one spirit. As we explore the complexities of our inner landscapes, my approach reminds us that healing isn’t just about overcoming past traumas; it’s about weaving our experiences into a cohesive, empowering narrative that propels us forward with purpose and unity.

I live in central Virginia on my 10-acre micro flower farm, aptly named Stellium Tryst. I share my life with my 24-year-old son, two wolf dogs, a black cat, and horses. I thrive outdoors—hiking, tending horses, nurturing wildflower meadows, writing, reading, creating art, and sharing life with my tribe of dear friends and fellow seekers, a vibrant community of planet-loving healers.